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It's time to get real

Let's keep it real, if you're on this channel, you're probably a go-getter. But this episode is all about setting unrealistic goals that can be hurtful to you and those around you. Setting unrealistic expectations refers to establishing standards or goals that are unattainable or exceed what is reasonably achievable in a given situation. These expectations go beyond what is realistic or practical, often demanding perfection or flawless performance. Here's how setting unrealistic expectations can be harmful to your mental health, self-esteem, and relationships:

Increased Stress and Anxiety

Stress and anxiety can be a nasty combination on your nerves and psyche. Don't make it worse. Like the bolder on the man's head in the picture at left, setting unrealistic, lofty expectations creates immense constant pressure to meet those unattainable standards. This pressure can lead to chronic stress and anxiety as you constantly strive for an ideal that is impossible to reach. The fear of falling short or making mistakes can contribute to a constant state of tension and worry, negatively impacting your mental well-being.

Decreased Self-Esteem

Learn to get real, or rather, realistic. When you consistently set unachievable expectations for yourself, it becomes difficult to meet them. This can lead to a sense of failure and inadequacy, eroding your self-esteem. The repeated experience of not meeting unrealistic standards can reinforce negative self-perceptions and a critical inner voice, ultimately damaging your self-worth.

Perfectionistic Thinking: Unrealistic expectations often feed into perfectionistic thinking patterns. Perfectionists tend to engage in all-or-nothing thinking, where any deviation from perfection is seen as a failure. This rigid mindset can inhibit creativity, hinder problem-solving, and limit personal growth. It fosters a constant need for external validation and an intolerance for mistakes or imperfections.

Strained Relationships

Unrealistic expectations can also affect your relationships with others. You may already be experiencing this with others. When you hold others to impossibly high standards, it creates an atmosphere of constant judgment and criticism. This can lead to strained relationships, as people may feel constantly evaluated and inadequate. It becomes difficult for others to feel accepted and valued in the face of unattainable expectations, leading to decreased trust, communication, and relationship satisfaction.

Comparison and Jealousy

Unrealistic expectations can fuel a tendency to compare yourself to others. When you believe you should be perfect in every aspect of life, it's easy to feel jealous or resentful when comparing yourself to someone who appears to have achieved that unattainable ideal. Get a grip. This comparison mindset can foster feelings of inadequacy, envy, and a distorted sense of self-

Limited Enjoyment and Burnout

By constantly striving for unattainable perfection, you may find it challenging to fully enjoy and appreciate your accomplishments. The focus on what is not yet perfect can overshadow your ability to celebrate achievements or find satisfaction in your efforts. This can lead to burnout as you continuously push yourself beyond reasonable limits, neglecting self-care and a balanced lifestyle.

Changing the way you think and act is a tough challege to meet. But if you set unrealistic goals, you can be self-defeating. Not a good thing! To maintain healthy mental well-being and cultivate positive relationships, it is crucial to set realistic expectations. This involves acknowledging your limitations, recognizing that perfection is unattainable, and embracing a mindset of growth, self-compassion, and acceptance. By setting achievable goals and allowing room for mistakes and learning, you can foster a healthier and more balanced approach to life and relationships.

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